Pretend

You pretend to be a citizen
You pretend to be a husband
You pretend to be a Human.

We are told to behave like a good person in the eyes of the society. You were never told to be you anywhere in our education. Nobody wants you to be you but you have to be somebody else and later the same behaviour continues for your children, they will follow you. To have a good society first we have created a role model and then for the role model we created history and we build monuments and statues. Then added in our education. We all asked to read those and follow, think as role models. 
Hence the peace in society was easily maintained because present populations pretend to behave like past population behaviours.

When you start to pretend to behave like your father, uncle, relatives, then society will be experiencing the same for our future generation.
If you ask about you. Simply, your children will follow you. Hence there is no you in you and there is no them in them. A line was created and then everyone pretended to behave like one before.

In the initial stage of society it is very difficult to educate and create individuality. hence we are asked to follow certain leaders as our role model and the least to follow our parents. It is easy to copy rather than create on our own. If you watch closely we always pretend to behave like someone either from Real or Reel. There is no me in me coz my behaviour is more like of someone I listen or follow unconsciously. Every behaviour in us is nothing but someone in us executing in the name of us.

We pretend to behave as if we have individuality. All our behaviour is either copied or directed.