Normally people come for help, may be a problem. We never know how they got into it but we promise them to bail out. There is a lot more risk to you than the victims. Only the victim knows how he got into the problem and why he did it. But when he narrates to us, he hides certain things as if something falls from nowhere. You enter believing him and now his problem becomes your problem then..
what? he will be freed and you’re the one holding on to them.
People who come to us never tell the truth how they got into the problem but they use a universal way of telling and that never helps him or the person who wishes to help him.
Use always the word ‘No’ as default and give a thought to it. Now it looks it will be easy for you to solve because the problems are more like chess, the player doesn’t know but the spectators know how much he is in danger. Hence you think it is easy to solve but actually it is more than you expect because he is on the web and if you enter he moves out and you will be in.
Saying ‘No’ always helps you to live a better life. Everyone has to carry their cross, in no way you can carry his. If anybody in the problem then they should have invited it, by their unconscious behaviour and problem arising therefrom is one way of helping him to understand and improve his archetype and to be matured enough to face future problems.
But, if you still want to help him. Stay away from him and do help, don’t take part in personally coz it is his world not yours. He needs just listening and any material assistance. Hence he can solve his problem.
In no way, enter anyone’s problem as your problem coz though it may look and brand you under Empathy or altruist. Let others hold it as a medal. We have our business to take care of our life hence helping others by staying away from their boundaries is the smartest thing.