We allow them to influence us unconsciously.
Influence is in the order of leadership. If someone influencing us is nothing but we actually allow them to influence. We are told God will come to earth from heaven and he will lead us. We subconsciously believe he will be there in some form to lead us and we believe he comes through another man. Hence, Whenever someone manipulates we tend to believe he may be a messenger to guide us to future life. We believe what is happening to us for good even though we doubt the process.
If someone influences and cheats us and he will be a loser Why?
He will miss a most precious person in life who truly believed him. He erased himself from the good memory of the victim. I have experienced when I was made to stand as a fool because of the influencer, there is no previous me in me and that innocent me to the situation has died and I entirely lost trust in him.
We know, we have to be careful but we take chances in life to prove it wrong but history repeats till we understand.
There is something happening when someone is influencing, we know in the middle that we are taken for a ride but we still believe the influencer because we are tired of taking decisions in our life. That’s what happens when a woman is told not to believe a stranger but she does in spite of it because she was tired in her decision taken on other advice.
Everyone influences others to move their life, hence influence is not a bad word. You can’t be smart every time, to take care of you from others because humans are rational animals hence influencing and getting influenced are inevitable.