Tolerance,
it actually means something to say “I ignore” you.

If your wife is tolerating you is nothing but she is ignoring you because if she tries to understand, then she has to alter her ideology that is even worse than tolerating. Hence, she decided not to change her ideology and better to ignore that you are not present in that behaviour. This is one of the reasons the whole structure of the family still remains intact in this world.

There is no term called ‘understanding’ in marriage, actually she ignores or rejects such activities of yours. When you have friends of other religions it is better to ignore them than understand their religion. The more you try to understand other religions the more you come across certain religious practices that look absurd and you debate and it will end in communal violence. What you should do in order to continue the relationship is just ignore their religious practice and see to it that it never comes under your lens of conversation.

If your neighbour’s wife is beautiful it is better to ignore her than looking at her and her breasts and hips then struggle to behave as if you are so good. Your tolerance rests with the talent of ignoring what is happening around you rather than understanding them.